Had a great talk with my son culminating with this statement.

" I don't expect you to be the best, I expect you to try your best"

We spent and 2 hours talking Politics, people, news, The Constitution, psychology, chess, Taxes, 401ks, investment property, Sex, fiscal responsibility ; personal and government,  School, College, acceptance of others, Civics and Love both with a women companion  and that of your family, video games, and obsessive behavior, Computer network defense, physical security, dogs, alcohol, MMA and money.