I told a young lady that she was wrong for berating someone for being a deadbeat dad. Basically you both acted irresponsibly now you want them to act responsible after you decided that you were going to have the baby, a decision that he had no say so. Not only does your logic suck but you have completely taken him out of the after the fact decision making. I am not an advocate of absentee dads, i didnt have much interaction with my dad and there was no support at all. needless to say oh well.  ladies act responsible  respect yourself enough to not be intimate with someone you barely know. In the case where a man leaves you and neglects his kids guess what you probably don't need or want him around them anyway. There is a reason they wanted to leave and staying will only make it fester. ...rant